Parents are often our biggest supporters in life, with a wealth of experience and wisdom that we can always tap into.
But there will come a point in time when they won’t be able to perform their daily activities as they used to. You may notice that from the untended garden, overflowing laundry basket, or small changes to their daily routine.
When this happens, it might be time to explore the option of home care support to assist them around the house. But the problem is: How do you convince your parents to accept a little extra help? Especially if they’ve been fiercely independent throughout their life?
But first, here are some questions you should be asking yourself before diving into that conversation.
What are the signs that your parents need more help and support?
Several telltale signs may show that your parents need more help and support around the home. You will notice these signs when you find them doing things that are usually outside their daily routine or acting differently.
One telltale indicator is your parents avoiding their usual chores or certain social events, even the important ones. Once you notice that, you should have a conversation with them to understand the underlying reasons. If the reason is due to difficulty in performing simple activities, immediately start exploring in-home care options for them before the situation escalates to something more serious that may require extensive aged care services.
The way your parents act towards you can be another significant sign. If you find them constantly seeking assistance from you in all their activities, including the small ones, they may need more help and support.
Martin Healy, founder of CareGivers in Brisbane, has helped many people with the fear of asking their parents or older loved ones if they need home care.
“My main interest has always been on relationships, mainly couples, but also parents and their children, and working on having difficult conversations. It is so important all the time, and this is a prevalent one,” says Healy.
“When we have difficult conversations to be had, we tend to avoid them. If you have a pretty good suggested script, it can help to simplify the process.
“Talking to your loved ones about the options available to help them stay at home and remain independent is crucial.”